Tuesday, August 2, 2011

50 Day Things Girls SHOULD Do Challenge: Post #41

{Post 213/365: Original Post: (41/50) Girls SHOULD}

Girls SHOULD...
Whatever reason you end it you should at least have the decency and humanity to tell the person why and be honest about the reasons. How will they ever learn to improve themselves if they have no idea what they did or didn't do? I'm not including abusive, controlling and dangerous relationships in this statement. IF and WHEN you are ready to leave those PLEASE leave running and never look back. That would be the best you could do! I simply mean, how hard is it to tell a person that you are finished with the relationship because you don't feel the same way, or you have decided you need time to yourself, or truthfully you have met someone else and if you can fall for them then you must not have been in the right relationship...or you must not have been happy, and most of all...OWN your own part of the reasons why you are leaving. When people say, "It's not you, it's ME." they often say that as a way to leave softly and try to keep from hurting the other person which is nice and ok but, I hope that they also recognize the TRUTH in that statement. YOU are leaving because YOU did not get whatever it was you thought you needed and wanted from that relationship for whatever reason. Later maybe you'll blame that other person for all the things they did or didn't do to be the person you needed but, REALLY you are the only person to hold ownership for ANY decision or choice you make so BE HONEST...with yourself and also them. It will save a lot of grief on both ends.

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