YOU are YOU

{Post 28/365: Original Post: I AM a QUEEN}
I am thinking about what it feels like to fall in love. To BE in love.
I'm thinking about all the feelings we can feel when this happens.
I'm thinking about how blind we can be to soft subtle changes we make to co-exist, to compromise, to accommodate each other and how easy it then is to give up our "self" in the name of LOVE.
In the name of "LOVE" and peace keeping we give in to our partner's needs more often.
In soft, quiet, subtle ways we give up our own right to choice because we "love" that other person so much.

A wise friend told me once that "love isn't about what we take but, what we give" and so many of us are willing to give EVERYTHING that we lose ourselves in the process.

I am one of these people.
The all-in, all or nothing, jump in feet first, anything for love kind.
I don't think that's wrong.
I don't see anything wrong with wanting to do and be and say everything and anything you can to make the other person as happy as you can make them.
As long as it is TRUE. As long as it does not HARM you. As long as you don't LOSE you.
As long as you recognize it is NOT your responsibility to BE their happiness.
As long as you don't accept their choices as your own.
As long as you don't allow them to manipulate and control you out of guilt or insecurity or fear that they will leave, that they will hurt you, that they will punish you for having the right to choose your own path.

Sometimes we will stay in an unhealthy relationship for the sake of love because we don't want to be a failure in love. We don't want to be "wrong" for not having the strength to endure. We don't want to believe that we weren't good enough or didn't do enough, or didn't try our hardest. We don't want to disappoint our families, friends, children, and mostly ourselves.

Sometimes you can love someone else with all of your being, mind, heart and soul and they just don't equal your love. They are just NOT the right person for you.
It's like trying to fit a square peg in a round hole!

It is OK to move on.

LOVE really shouldn't be like fitting a square peg in a round hole.

When you find the RIGHT person it is like puzzle pieces fitting perfectly together.

It is like coming home to yourself.

It is like recognizing yourself in someone else.

It is knowing that you can be your WHOLE self, flaws and all and be accepted for just exactly who you are.
It is knowing that you can choose your own path and they will encourage, support and stand beside you all the way! EVEN if they don't always LIKE every choice you make.
It is making mistakes and learning from them and growing separately and together...FORWARD...towards a deeper and more intimate relationship together.
It is KNOWING that they are the other half of you and YOU are better WITH them now than you were before by yourself.

YOU are YOU, 
HE is HE
and together you are MORE

NOT LESS. NEVER less.