{Post 97/365: Original Post: ReadWriteRock}
Starting January 1, 2011 I began a 365 day Creativity Challenge and I began writing a blog post a day. I am somewhere around post 95 or 96 right now and sometimes I have a bit of trouble thinking of things to write about.
Last year I did a 30 day challenge on Facebook where I posted a picture a day and whatever information was meant to go with it to explain. I thoroughly enjoyed doing that. It kept my brain busy and gave me a list of things to think about. It's not that I haven't written lists and lists of blog topics but, sometimes I just draw a total blank with any of those topics and can't even begin to write about them. For some reason a 30 day challenge seems to be good incentive for me. It's ONLY 30 days after all and not quite as daunting as 365!! So I have decided some of the rest of my 365 blog posts are going to be part of a few different 30 day challenges. I have a few to choose from. If I don't get them finished in this 365 challenge then maybe I will start a new one...or maybe I will just do 30 day challenges now and then because I find them amusing!
At any rate, keep your eyes open for some of my blogs to sport some of my 30 day challenges in the future. I hope to write:
If I think of any more, which I'm sure I will I will add them in later. In the meantime I have quite a few to choose from and eventually I hope to do them ALL! Wish me luck!! :)
Thursday, April 7, 2011
Wednesday, April 6, 2011
Verb Verse
{Post 96/365: Original Post: KD Bissonette on Triond}
Dance, Move, Listen
Flow, Sparkle, Whirl
Music is the sound and feel of poetry in motion.
Flow, Sparkle, Whirl
Music is the sound and feel of poetry in motion.
Me
{Post 95/365: Original Post: KD Bissonette on Triond}
My real name is Dawn
Yesterday my name was tired from shopping for groceries
Today my name is tired from moving my office
Tomorrow my name will be cooks dinner for son
In my dreams my name is Stephen King
Yesterday my name was tired from shopping for groceries
Today my name is tired from moving my office
Tomorrow my name will be cooks dinner for son
In my dreams my name is Stephen King
Monday, April 4, 2011
Breaking Question of the Day
{Post 94/365: Original Post: BREAKING QUESTIONS}
She was getting along in age and married the first serious guy that asked her.A few years into the unhappy marriage,she falls in love with another man and wants to elope with her kids…BREAKING QUESTION OF THE DAY….Does the woman follow her heart or stay and fulfill the for better or worse part of her marriage???
Let’s talk about the vows that we take.
A traditional set of vows:
“I, (Name),
Take you, (Name),
To be my (wife/husband);
To have and to hold,
From this day forward,
For better, for worse,
For richer, for poorer,
In sickness and in health,
To love and to cherish,
‘Till death do us part.” (or, “As long as we both shall live.”)
Take you, (Name),
To be my (wife/husband);
To have and to hold,
From this day forward,
For better, for worse,
For richer, for poorer,
In sickness and in health,
To love and to cherish,
‘Till death do us part.” (or, “As long as we both shall live.”)
These are not just words that we say. These are VOWS that we take in front of a group of witnesses, our family and friends that mean we promise to commit to making them true willingly, continuously throughout life.
If you don’t think that you can commit to these vows then maybe a different more modern set would be more appropriate. A marriage is not a fairy tale story or the ending to happily ever after. It is the beginning to a life spent trying to hold to another person through thick and thin, bad and good, the ebbs and flows of life! It isn’t an easy or light decision. It is SERIOUS!
Why do you vow “to have and to hold from this day forward” if you don’t mean and intend for that other person to be the ONE person that you can share all the joys and sorrows of life with from now on?
To promise “for better, for worse” means you will stand beside them no matter what comes your way. Whatever your life experiences, trials or tests you vow to stay with that person through all of them.
I think it is self evident what “for richer, for poorer” means. You commit to go on the journey together whether that means you live in squalor and at least have each other , or you live “high on the hog” and have everything your heart could dream of.
“In sickness and in health” means NO MATTER what accident, illness, infirmity, disease or disaster befalls either of you, you have promised to stand beside your mate through all or any of them.
But, most importantly and what gives the ability to stand through all the rest is “to love and to cherish as long as we both shall live.”
IF there is no LOVE these vows will surely begin to chafe…pretty quickly I would think. Then you have people on both sides breaking them without thought or care for each other.
These are vows: an earnest promise to commit to an act or behave in a certain manner and IF you can hold to them throughout your life that is commendable but, let us remember that we are all human and we all make mistakes. Some people take these vows without serious comprehension of what they are promising. Some people take these vows knowingly and willingly being false because they are afraid to get old and never marry, they are afraid to be alone, they are afraid to lose a relationship with a person who is more committed than they really are, they are pregnant and want to do right by their child, it is convenient for them at the time, and probably still many other less than perfect reasons. Some people take these vows with full intentions of keeping them and something happened that made breaking them a much better solution.
I think in life there are many things to consider and each of those vows can have a limit to which we can reach and go no further. There ARE times when breaking a vow is BETTER for your own well being than staying and causing more damage not only to yourself but, also to the people around you-family, friends, your children. You must weigh and measure all until you find a decision that works for you and brings your heart peace.
I believe in marriage and I believe in these vows.
I have been married twice.
The first time it was my intention to hold to my vows from start to finish because that is who I am. I don’t quit. I hold to ONE man and I KNOW I can do that. The thing is that it takes TWO people to be equally committed and equally in love and equally willing to hold to each other and KEEP these vows.
Unfortunately in this world there are MANY weak and selfish people who do not think of their mate but, only themselves. In which case they are NOT loving or cherishing you and have in fact, reneged on their own vows.
This is what happened to me.
I believe that for “better, for worse” actually means hanging tough together throughout all the things that life has to throw at you both positive and negative. I do NOT believe it includes people who actively, knowingly, willingly, deliberately and otherwise CREATE worse by their actions. If you think you are a person who can handle sticking through all the damage that can cause by all means give it a go but, I was NOT. I am NOT.
Maybe I could have if it was only one issue here and there but, it was MANY on top of many all designed to squash me like a bug and deliberately belittle me, abuse me, weaken me, isolate me etc.
He reneged on his vows to love, honour and cherish me and as a result I divorced his sorry ass! I agonized over that decision. My vows meant something to me. For a long time I felt like a quitter. However, I made the RIGHT decision and when I look back at that mess that was my life I KNOW this.
YOU are the only person who can know and decide whether your marriage is compromised and therefore it is time to leave it or it is fixable and you can and should invest your heart and soul and time into rebuilding it.
Marriage is NOT a fairy tale. It is HARD work. The most constant thing in life is that things CHANGE. If they stay the same and stagnant where is the life in that? Two people have to be able to love and respect and flow and change with each other, for each other, because of each other. Otherwise what is the point?
I Stand Up For MYSELF
{Post 93/365: Original Post: I AM a QUEEN}
Part of being a strong, capable, independent queen is knowing when it is time to stand up for yourself. Sometimes there are occasions in life when people take advantage of your sweetness or goodness or inability to say no to them.
It is good to learn and cultivate the ability to say NO without feeling guilty.
Time for yourself is imperative. Knowing when it is time to say No and learning to say it is also important. It is also imperative that you know yourself well enough to understand WHEN you are allowing people to walk over you or treat you like a door mat and learn to assert yourself. Your voice should be heard too. Your opinion matters just as much. Be careful you don't just let everyone else have their way without even expressing to them what your needs and desires are as well.
Don't be afraid to say, "I don't think I want to do that, I think I would prefer this instead!" You don't have to please everyone else all the time. Sometimes it IS ok that you want them to accommodate you as well! ;)
Part of being a strong, capable, independent queen is knowing when it is time to stand up for yourself. Sometimes there are occasions in life when people take advantage of your sweetness or goodness or inability to say no to them.
It is good to learn and cultivate the ability to say NO without feeling guilty.
Time for yourself is imperative. Knowing when it is time to say No and learning to say it is also important. It is also imperative that you know yourself well enough to understand WHEN you are allowing people to walk over you or treat you like a door mat and learn to assert yourself. Your voice should be heard too. Your opinion matters just as much. Be careful you don't just let everyone else have their way without even expressing to them what your needs and desires are as well.
Don't be afraid to say, "I don't think I want to do that, I think I would prefer this instead!" You don't have to please everyone else all the time. Sometimes it IS ok that you want them to accommodate you as well! ;)
Saturday, April 2, 2011
Pain is NOT my friend.
{Post 92/365: Original Post: Sucks To Be ME}
A week ago I found out for the first time yet what it feels like to have one of the cysts on my kidneys burst. It is not fun or pleasant. It hurts.
I was laid up in bed for a week. I've spent the last couple of days resting as well because I don't want that to happen again any time soon!
Thankfully, tylenol takes the edge off and the heating pad relieves some of the pain.
Thank GOD for that because I really can't spend a week in the hot bath tub!! LOL
The thing about being stuck in bed is that you think about all the things that you need to do and can't right now and it can be very frustrating.
The thing about being in pain like that is that it is a constant throb and causes stress on your body and mind. It is very difficult to concentrate on anything or focus so I had a hard time keeping up with my blogs and I had to "cheat" by posting things I had written previously. So, I decided maybe I should just write all the time and save the finished stories and posts to a folder for sick days! LOL
But, the thing is when you get back to normal again real life comes crashing back into focus and you're back to your same routine again of laundry, dishes and other housework and any other extra projects you've set for yourself for the week or the month. Since I am a terribly unorganized individual there is really no regular way in which I keep track of all these things so what's next is whatever comes into my head or pops into my attention first.
I do try to write lists for myself but sometimes I lose them and sometimes I JUST don't FOLLOW them. So all I can do is keep trying to get my "stuff" together and hope with time I DO get better at it!
In the healthy pain free times I will try to keep myself busy and write extra things in case of the next "bursting cyst" moment.
Some parts of living with my diseases depresses and frustrates me MUCH.
I don't like the pain. IT is NOT my friend.
BUT, I have decided I REFUSE to let it get me down OR at the very least KEEP me down! I will take the down time when it comes as a moment to collect my thoughts and take a deep breath before jumping in feet first again and running full tilt at the speed my brain requests of me. It will be like the calm before the storm.
AND I think that I can do that. I can use those times as breathing space, calm, down time to rest and replenish for the up times. Full speed ahead!
A week ago I found out for the first time yet what it feels like to have one of the cysts on my kidneys burst. It is not fun or pleasant. It hurts.
I was laid up in bed for a week. I've spent the last couple of days resting as well because I don't want that to happen again any time soon!
Thankfully, tylenol takes the edge off and the heating pad relieves some of the pain.
Thank GOD for that because I really can't spend a week in the hot bath tub!! LOL
The thing about being stuck in bed is that you think about all the things that you need to do and can't right now and it can be very frustrating.
The thing about being in pain like that is that it is a constant throb and causes stress on your body and mind. It is very difficult to concentrate on anything or focus so I had a hard time keeping up with my blogs and I had to "cheat" by posting things I had written previously. So, I decided maybe I should just write all the time and save the finished stories and posts to a folder for sick days! LOL
But, the thing is when you get back to normal again real life comes crashing back into focus and you're back to your same routine again of laundry, dishes and other housework and any other extra projects you've set for yourself for the week or the month. Since I am a terribly unorganized individual there is really no regular way in which I keep track of all these things so what's next is whatever comes into my head or pops into my attention first.
I do try to write lists for myself but sometimes I lose them and sometimes I JUST don't FOLLOW them. So all I can do is keep trying to get my "stuff" together and hope with time I DO get better at it!
In the healthy pain free times I will try to keep myself busy and write extra things in case of the next "bursting cyst" moment.
Some parts of living with my diseases depresses and frustrates me MUCH.
I don't like the pain. IT is NOT my friend.
BUT, I have decided I REFUSE to let it get me down OR at the very least KEEP me down! I will take the down time when it comes as a moment to collect my thoughts and take a deep breath before jumping in feet first again and running full tilt at the speed my brain requests of me. It will be like the calm before the storm.
AND I think that I can do that. I can use those times as breathing space, calm, down time to rest and replenish for the up times. Full speed ahead!
Friday, April 1, 2011
AJ's Basket
{Post 91/365: Original Post: What I Want MY Children to KNOW}
tiny wicker baby bassinet
inner lining sewn with love
sweater outfit placed tenderly
bonnet and booties
never to be worn
tiny baby boy bathing suit
and rubber duckies
from big brother
ceramic teddy bear
and teddy bear candle
from sissy
an easter egg
a Christmas stocking
a birthday bear
month of December
and cookie monster baby toys
with love from mommy and daddy
and your baby book
folded up in a baby blanket
and cover crocheted by momma
the book holds
our sleeping dream
in the pockets
pictures
a crocheted flower
a lost baby pocket
seashells for peace
a tiny crocheted baby blanket
a baby brush
momma's home test -positive
sympathy cards
your baby calendar
filled in, until...
a book for mommy's thoughts
of sorrow, of anguish
as she and daddy grieved your loss
once I lit a candle for you
but I need to no longer
I carry you with me always
and even more
when I look at the tattoo
over my heart
angel baby
I wish you could have stayed with me
but I love you no less
because you could not
your basket of things
sets my heart at ease
*love you forever*
mommy xo
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